What Really Matters

What would you say really matters? What do you value above all else?

I really want to make friends with folks here in Tucson and maintain my friendships in California. That means I have to make them a priority.

I can only do that if I am willing to literally block out time on my calendar for those activities.

It is so easy for things to get in the way. But as I have said that these things are important, I have been so intentional about this.

I didn’t want to repeat what happened when I moved to California 8 years ago. It took me a long time to feel like a belonged because I just wouldn’t make time for it. I thought it would just magically happen. 

After about year 3, when I realized how lonely I was, I began to change things. 

I am starting from the get go here in Tucson to not make the same mistake.

I share this with you because I know how easy it is to let time slip by with good intentions without actually acting on them. 

Jot down your top 3 priorities then take a few minutes to review how you did with those things this past year. How did you do this past year actually acting on these priorities? Do you feel as though your words and actions matched your intentions?

These are really important questions to ask yourself as we wrap 2021 and enter into 2022.

Every single one of us has things and people that are deeply important to us but often we allow other things to take precedence over those priorities. We get overwhelmed with the demands of life and circumstances and find ourselves putting out fires rather than making conscious choices about what really matters to us. 

If you want to know what was most important, I encourage you to take a look back in two places. These are the two places that will always reflect what your actual values are.

Those two places are your calendar and your checkbook. 

If you say that certain relationships are important to you, how did those relationships show up on your calendar? I realize that you may not have written everything down but if you were to do a review of your calendar, did those people show up? Were you intentional about creating time for those relationships or did you leave it up to chance?

You can look at your calendar for other priorities as well such as your health, your purpose, your passions to see if you intentionally created space for them. 

Same goes for money. Look at what you value and check to see if your expenditures reflect those important elements. Did you invest in yourself for your own personal development if that is important to you? Did you contribute to organizations that are meaningful to you? 

Identify what is important to you then look at your calendar and your checkbook to see if they are congruent with your values. 

Celebrate the places where you were congruent and simply decide to create something different in this upcoming year. Use your calendar and checkbook as tools for transformation to help you live more congruently with what matters most to you. 

Share your thoughts in our Facebook group Ultimate Life Now.

Here’s to your dream,

Felicia