How Much Help Do You Let Yourself Have?
I love to mountain bike. My husband and I have a standing date that most Sundays, you will find us out on the trail.
Recently, we were climbing an exceptionally difficult climb and I passed another biker. He called out to me and said, “you are cheating.”
See, I have an electric-assist bike where I can kick in a small motor that makes it a bit easier to pedal.
I turned to him and said “ I am good with having this little bit of help. I liked it because it allows me to go faster, further, and have more fun.” I also said that I didn’t have anything to prove.
It caused me to think about how getting help has gotten such a bad rap! How much real help do you let yourself have?
There is this pervasive belief that says accepting help means that you are weak. People have told me that if you get help with a goal or a dream then you didn’t really earn it. I have had so many people tell me that they should be able to do it on their own. They know what to do, they just can’t get themselves to do what they know they should do.
Then they beat themselves up for it. It is a vicious nasty cycle.
I want you to know that it is ok for you to ask for help! In fact, if you are going to succeed at anything in life, you HAVE to have help.
When you look around, nobody who has accomplished anything did it on their own. They had teachers and mentors and people in their corner who believed in them and show the way. This crazy illusion of self-sufficiency and being independent is such a fallacy that will cause you to lose motivation, momentum and joy.
The illusion that you should just be able to grind it out on your own actually grinds you down and kills your dream!
Learning to ask and accept help is an act of humility, and shows true power and leadership. It says that there is something that is important enough to you that you are willing to say you don’t know it all and you are open to let others show you and believe in you.
Your dream is your mission. It is vitally important to you and it matters deeply. If this is in fact, true, then it matters enough for you to reach out and ask for help. I swore that I would never have a dream or mission that I could do on my own. If I could do it on my own, it was not big enough.
Letting yourself receive help is like having that little engine that gives you the boost, the confidence and energy required to climb those difficult hills along the journey of your dream.
My electric-assist bike allows me to be fully present with my husband as we tackle big hills together. It let me be more present with him than trying to push myself, ending up exhausted.
Where can you open yourself and allow more help? Where are you holding back out of fear that you will appear weak or because you think you should be able to do it on your own? Where do you hesitate because you think you may not be worth it? I encourage you to imagine what could happen for you if you let yourself have the help you deserve. How much faster, further could you go? How much more good could you bring and how much more fun could you have?
Do some journaling on this and share with me in the FB group. Join here: www.facebook.com/groups/ultimatelifenow